“We enter the various ages of our lives like newborns, with no experience behind us, no matter how old we are.” François Larochefoucauld
It is no secret to most mature women that as time passes, not only in real, “offline” life, but also on international dating sites, it can be difficult to meet the right man for a relationship and create a family. However, this does not mean that happiness with a foreign husband at a mature age remains an unattainable dream.
Today we would like to elaborate on this topic and talk about the criteria that are important for successful dating a foreigner, give some tips for mature women that will help them: assess and increase their chances of dating a foreigner, and protect themselves from dishonest personalities.
Spectacular photos attract the attention of foreign suitors more than mundane or bad shots. Important components of a successful photograph for a profile on an international dating site: a well-groomed appearance (makeup and nicely styled hair), elegant clothes emphasizing the advantages of the figure, and a smile! We told in detail about how to increase your chances for acquaintance with interesting foreigner and how to choose a good photo for your profile in the article “Dating with foreigners: how to choose the right photo?
- Knowing English or German significantly increases the chance of meeting an interesting man. Most mature foreign cavaliers would like to be able to speak freely with their lady of choice. For this reason, the decision of dating, in part, is made based on the data regarding language skills that the lady has indicated in her questionnaire on the dating site. We already touched upon the importance of learning a foreign language for women who want to marry a foreigner in the article “When to start learning a foreign language: before or after meeting a foreigner?
Arguments such as: “If a European wants to meet a Russian woman, he should learn Russian himself” – we are quite skeptical. There are several simple reasons for this:
Russian is one of the most difficult languages to learn. It takes years to master it at an acceptable level for communication. Why would a European need to know Russian? Only to communicate with Slavic women. After all, If a European decided to marry a Slavic woman, he would not want to move to Russia, Ukraine, or Belarusrather want his wife to live with him in Europe. In addition, foreigners who speak Russian will always have an extensive circle of communication on an international dating site.
A woman’s study of a foreign language is self-development and a step on the way to dating and marriage with a foreigner. Many foreign men are more willing to respond to letters from women who speak foreign languages, even if not perfectly.
Marrying a foreigner who speaks Russian makes it harder for a woman to learn the language of the country she is moving to and to integrate herself into society. After all, all conversations with her husband, all household conversations, will be in Russian. The process of integration and learning a new language is individual. With age, it becomes more difficult to learn a foreign language and to adapt to new conditions of life. The woman’s motivation to overcome the language barrier and integrate into the new society, when she can communicate freely in her native language every day, will be minimal.
Of course, it is possible to marry a foreigner without knowing a foreign language. However, we would like our lovely ladies not to wait for a miracle, but to act and, through their own efforts, have a better chance of success, be able to communicate with different men and to choose rather than wait for a happy coincidence.
Women who can write to a man first communicate with more interesting suitors and are more likely to get the results they want. About why it is not necessary to be shy to write to men first, about the positive results that bring women’s initiative, written in detail in the article: “3 reasons why you should begin to write to men first.
Being realistic about the man you would like to meet helps you not to waste your own time and feelings. Over time, it becomes difficult to get to know a male peer. One reason is that many mature Europeans still want to have children. For this reason, they are looking for a woman who will be ready to have children together: both mentally and physically. In this regard, there is no need to “fear” the age of the man. In Europe there is a favorable environmental situation, a high level of quality of medical services. As a consequence, the life expectancy of the population is also high. Many men do not look their age, are in good physical shape, are mentally healthy, and for a long time remain men in the physiological sense. Many Europeans after 50 do not wish to have children in the future and are looking for a woman who will be their life partner, a caring, wise and understanding partner, a woman with life experience with whom they can enjoy life.
Personal qualities such as patience and perseverance are important. Life is unpredictable, today you are depressed and ready to put up with loneliness, and tomorrow you may meet your man. We would like to point out that finding a life partner, no matter with the help of a dating site, marriage agency or girlfriends, takes time and patience! How long does it take to meet a worthy man on an international dating site? This question is impossible to answer! It is important to believe in yourself and your chosen path, that you can and are worthy of meeting a loving and caring man, and keep looking for him! It is possible that your paths have not yet crossed.
When dating online, you should be cautious and keep looking at things realistically. As a rule, it is women at a mature age, with unsuccessful photos in the questionnaire, who become victims of Internet scammers. This happens on free dating sites, where user profiles are not vetted. Imposing, often even young, foreign “suitors” promise trusting and sincere women love and material well-being. The difference in age in such cases does not matter for the suitor, he is trying to make the woman feel chosen and unique, to charm her with beautiful words, big promises and in a short time to get warm feelings from her side. However, in the way of such “love There is an “obstacle” that the lady is asked to solve with a certain amount of money. In such situations one should not be afraid to ask a friend, a daughter, or another third person for advice. It is easier for someone on the outside to assess the situation and to understand whether the handsome gentleman is gradually “siphoning off” material resources from the gullible woman.
In conclusion, we would like to note that each person decides for himself whether age will be an obstacle for him on the way to the desired goal or an assistant in its achievement, and to quote the words of the American writer Gertrude Stein: “Inside ourselves we are all the same age.”.