In this article we would like to touch upon the rather sensitive topic of adult dating site payment and related male activity in order to answer the question once and for all: why do I get a lot of men writing to me on one site and not on another?

Adult dating site MeetKing is popular. Foreign cavaliers on the site pay for the opportunity to send women messages. We believe that this circumstance helps them to act on the basis of a serious interest in dating a lady and to make their “choice” thoughtfully. Many international marriage agencies work in a similar way: a woman leaves her profile at the agency and if one of the agency’s clients shows interest in meeting her, he has to pay for the possibility of correspondence.

As a reminder, there are many different online dating sites that offer paid and free services. There are completely free dating sites, paid dating sites and paid for men, but free for women dating sites with foreigners.

What is the difference between free and paid for men international dating sites and why does the fact of paying for a site affect men’s activity?

On free international dating sites, men meet ladies more actively. However, we should not forget that they write actively to a large number of ladies, perhaps without even reading their profiles, but simply because the ladies were on the site online. Under such conditions, the motivation to find a woman for a serious relationship is much lower, as a man has a lot of contacts with different women, and therefore a lot of opportunities… Men are often seized by the excitement of searching for absolute perfection, the perfect woman. After all, they are not limited by anything in their search: they have an opportunity to write to all the women on the site and they use it, often without thinking what dating can lead to and whether they are interested in the woman as a potential life partner.

On paid international dating sites, men are “targeted” for a successful search that will yield the desired result. They don’t want to waste time and money (as ugly and stale as that sounds). Men write to women guided by genuine interest and a desire to meet a serious woman. Of course, the presence of the financial aspect makes them “more reserved.” However, this circumstance is a kind of guarantee of their intentions, a guarantee that the decision to start dating will be more balanced. Often, in order to pay for the possibility of communication with a woman, a man wants to be sure that the woman is also interested in getting acquainted with him, so he expects a “sign” from her: an expression of sympathy or the first message.

How to increase your chances on a paid international dating site for men?

1. Select spectacular photos that emphasize the advantages of appearance. We’ve touched on the subject of photos more than once and how important good photos are for online dating. A profile photo is a man’s first impression. It is the photo that attracts his attention in the first place. You can have a unique personal qualities, have a rich inner world, but it is possible to convey this only in person. If the photo charmed the man, he has a desire to get acquainted with the woman. Only when the meeting took place, during the correspondence, you can get to know the inner world of a man. You can read more about the selection of photos in the article “Dating foreigners: how to choose the right photo?

2. Take the initiative to start adult dating. If you’re not getting a lot of attention from foreign men, take the initiative: express interest in the men you like and write to them first. We dealt with the issue of female initiative in the article “3 Reasons Why You Should Write to Men First” and we won’t dwell on it again.

If the priority is still the number of messages and not the sincerity of a man’s intentions, there are many dating sites on the Internet that are free for both men and women.