Dear ladies, in this article we return again to questions concerning the behavioral aspects of dating and communicating with foreigners online on an international dating site.
Fact: Dating and communicating on the Internet is different from dating and communicating in real life. We are not going to list the negative aspects of virtual communication, but rather focus our attention on the positive aspects of online dating.
The international dating site fernliebe offers you a platform for dating, communicating with men from Western Europe in order to find a partner for life together. The site also offers you useful information in the form of articles that discuss various topics to help you develop communication. However, the result of dating and communication (whether you can create a relationship with a foreigner) is entirely up to you. You are responsible for the “result”, the outcome of your endeavor, for the presentation of yourself on the site, for the photos you add to your profile, for your communication style with men, etc.
Let’s focus separately on the style of communication with foreign suitors. There are different possible models of communication on the dating site with foreigners. Let’s focus on the communication style that can help you develop acquaintance with a foreigner. The basics of this style are: openness and sincerity in communication.
The restrained, “cold” manner of communication repulses German men. They have heard not only about the beauty of Slavic women, but also about their openness in communication and their extraordinary warmth of heart and orientation toward family values. In their understanding dating on the Internet, dating a Slavic woman is a mutual process: a man makes a step to meet, a woman responds to him. “Steps towards” left unattended are unspent potential, devalued opportunities. So when foreigners encounter an “unapproachable cold fortress” in the process of dating who shows no interest and asks no questions of her partner, a light bulb goes off in the mind of a German man – the process is not mutual / the lady is not interested in going on dating me, in creating a serious relationship! Maybe she just answers me out of politeness?
He knows nothing about the reticence of Slavic women, for him it is a signal of disinterest in him. A man tries to get as much information as possible from the woman he likes, writes about himself, asks questions in order to determine the degree of commonality of interests. If a woman responds with one-word answers to his questions without any signs of interest on her part, without telling him about himself, asking questions about his life, everything that a full-fledged communication between people consists of, sooner or later the man will stop trying to establish contact and will switch to another woman.
Verbal communication provides 7 percent of information about the person we are talking to, the remaining 93 percent is provided non-verbal, through “body language” – facial expressions, gestures, intonations, etc. At the initial stages of dating on the Internet, when the parties exchange letters, “body language” is absent, so it is necessary to use the resource of verbal communication as much as possible in order to obtain information about the partner – about his tastes, habits, preferences, ideas and to tell about himself.
- Initiate communication;
- Establish its framework;
- Develop interest in yourself;
- Show your interest in creating a serious relationship, in getting to know a man.
You need to learn to talk openly about yourself (this is available to anyone and doesn’t have to have an incredibly exciting lifestyle to do it), to ask the right questions, to read the answers carefully, and to respond to the information in the man’s letters. If you learn how to do this, you will create the foundation for a closer, more lasting relationship.
It is important to be in the dating process! Actively interact, instead of taking the position of an outside observer, critically assessing a foreign suitor’s attempts to develop an acquaintance. Prejudices, preconceived negative opinions, often not even based on personal experience, do not help you in your search for a man to create a relationship.
Asking the right questions prepares the ground for finding common interests, creating a sense of community, and strengthening mutual understanding. To improve the “management” of this process, the process of verbal communication, we advise you to create a special questionnaire. Think about what information you would like to know about the man that causes you the greatest interest in a potential partner (his character traits, daily habits, his family, leisure activities, interests, etc.). ). Questions should be phrased concretely (not in the form of vague hints. Misty hints lead to confusion and misunderstanding if there is a language barrier), and their purpose is to learn more about the person, his life, his preferences, and not about his income and assets. These kinds of questions are taboo in the initial stage of dating. By starting inquiring too early and too insistently about a man’s financial situation, you will permanently damage his impression of you and your dating goals. These questions can be asked, but only after the actual meeting. Usually, men talk about their financial situation on their own.
- When reviewing profiles of men on a dating site, make it a rule to be the first to write to candidates who arouse your interest. There is nothing wrong with that. In Germany it is normal for a woman to choose the right partner for herself instead of waiting for someone to choose her. It shows her self-confidence, her determination and her self-sufficiency.
- An active attitude in the matter of learning a foreign language will broaden your possibilities of communication and significantly increase your chances of dating success. The charm of communication with the help of eloquent looks and gestures, unfortunately, quickly passes and foreigners try to get acquainted with the lady with whom they can exchange information and understand each other.
- Take advantage of “feedback”: track men’s reactions to you – reactions to your photos, your profile, your letters. Respond flexibly, changing your profile pictures, adding more information about yourself, improving the quality of your communication, bringing warmth and understanding into the communication process. Develop the “art” of communication and a belief in getting things done.