Unfortunately, we began to notice that many ladies make demands on adult dating sites, on men (don’t get us wrong, there’s nothing wrong with that!), however, the “behavior” and manner of dating ladies do not indicate the seriousness of their own intentions. Men have to wait days or even weeks for an answer, and when they receive the long-awaited lines, they are perplexed by the fact that short messages sound rude, full of negativity, distrust and hostility towards the male sex.
Dear ladies, an international dating site is a platform where people meet who share a common goal. For example, on the international dating site MeetKing, these are men from Western Europe and women from Eastern Europe who want to meet a person for a serious relationship. We give the opportunity to find a person to create a family, how everyone uses this opportunity does not depend on us, this is a personal matter for every woman and every man. After all, when personal communication between two people begins, the work of the site ends. Responsibility for whether the acquaintance will lead to the desired goal, for the success of the acquaintance, lies directly on the man and woman, and not on the site. A dating site cannot communicate with a man for you and correct mistakes in communication. A website cannot make two people fall in love with each other. We check the profiles of new users, we listen to criticism and wishes, we can help with advice if you are ready to talk openly about dating, relationships and listen to criticism, but happiness in your personal life can only be achieved by your own efforts!
If you are registered on many dating sites with foreigners, communicate with different men, but the gentlemen “disappear” too quickly and you can’t find your man, think about it, perhaps the problem is not in the sites and not in the men.
We give three basic rules for a serious search for a partner. The implementation of these rules does not require much effort.
one.Respond to men’s letters in a timely manner. Ideally, the same day you received your first message. While a man is waiting for an answer, and especially for the first message, he does not languish in anticipation, his feelings do not grow stronger, he gradually loses interest, because there is a big difference between “live” communication and dating, and dating on the Internet through an international dating site. Having met a woman “live”, in real life a man caught fire with interest and will languish in anticipation of the next meeting, her call, because he was attracted by her image as a whole (appearance, demeanor, manner of speaking – all this cannot be conveyed using a questionnaire on dating site or photography). Seeing the woman’s profile on a dating site, the man became interested in dating and wrote to her in anticipation of a timely response. If this reaction was not followed on the first day, he continued to look through the profiles of other women. At this time, he will gradually lose interest and, having received an answer in a few days, he may no longer be interested in getting to know each other, as he began communicating with another woman who answered his letter in time.
If, due to certain circumstances, you cannot quickly answer the man, send him a short message so that he does not lose interest and is not at a loss why the answer to his letter does not come. Let him know that you have received his letter and you will be glad to meet him, however, at the moment you do not have the opportunity to send him a full answer, but you will definitely write to him when you have free time.
2. Responsibly approach the selection of photos. When adding photos to your profile on an international dating site, think about what kind of reaction they should cause in men, what and who does the man see in the picture? This applies to unprofessional shots that focus on certain parts of the body, shots taken from a distance so you have to look closely to see the woman, and dark shots.
If in an unprofessional photo taken at home, 50% of the picture is occupied by the neckline, it is difficult to say how serious the lady is. It is quite natural that after seeing such a picture, many men will light up with interest, however, at the same time, they will ask themselves: what kind of relationship is she looking for? Photos should emphasize the dignity of appearance, but not flaunt individual parts of the body.
There is a huge difference in the perception of professional and amateur shots. An image was created on a professional photo: clothes and furnishings were selected, makeup was done. For example, the neckline in a professional photo is part of the image, and not the whole image as a whole, so it harmoniously complements the image, and does not catch the eye, as in amateur photographs.
3. Politeness in communication. Unfortunately, many women have a negative experience of relationships with men and online dating. This experience should help, teach a woman how to discern deceit, how to understand that a man is not in the mood to search for a serious relationship, but not prevent acquaintance. After all, very often wariness and distrust are manifested in rudeness. Romantic feelings are not born out of rudeness and negative emotions. Anger and bitterness of insults can only cause pity and hostility. The man who sent you the message is not responsible for all those who hurt you. He takes the first step to get to know you, you do not need to push him away or immediately rank him as a potential deceiver. Remember the golden rule of morality: “Treat people the way you would like them to treat you”. This applies not only to potential gentlemen, but also to employees of a dating site.
In Western European countries, politeness in address plays a very important role and, receiving rude, cold answers, European men tend to think that women are not interested in getting to know them.