In past we already touched upon how to behave if after the first real meeting a woman does not have sympathy for a foreigner who has come to visit her. Today we would like to return to this issue and touch on other aspects of behaviour towards a man who does not make the right impression the first time she meets him.
In international dating there are not only happy love stories, joy and gratitude of couples who in spite of distance, stereotypes or fears have found each other and created a happy relationship. Unfortunately, examples of inhumane treatment of another person are not uncommon.
We would not dwell on this rather delicate and unpleasant topic in such detail, if it were not necessary. Unfortunately, moral principles of many people today allow them to leave another person to the mercy of fate in a strange country or use his feelings, his hope for reciprocity in selfish ends.
Planning the first meeting
Already at the stage when the man talks about the possibility of a first meeting, you should assess the seriousness of his interest in him. Because if something about him repels you, is an obvious and undeniable flaw, a real meeting is unlikely to change that.
How responsibly are you willing to deal with him if you don’t like him when you first meet him? Remember that he’s only coming for you. He probably does not speak Russian, he does not know anyone in your city, and he will have no one to turn to for help. Are you prepared to treat this man in a friendly manner? And if you don’t like him when you meet him, honestly tell him that you can’t reciprocate, but you won’t leave him to his fate in a foreign country. These are important questions to answer honestly and thoughtfully.
If you want to meet a woman not just because she is curious if she is coming or not, but because she wants to have one free night out of the week and wants to do something to diversify her free time, you should do it sincerely. The readiness for action is to be valued and respected as much as the action itself. This is because sometimes, if there is no reciprocity, the actions themselves might not be necessary. If you aren’t genuinely interested in meeting the man, you should let him know, instead of allowing the situation to run its course and making the man travel for no reason, to tell him what you already felt or knew perfectly well during your correspondence with him.
A momentary gain in exchange for a happy future?
Whether European or Slav, wealthy or middle-income, no man likes a display of self-interest in a woman. At the first meeting, when a foreigner comes to get acquainted with you, you should think carefully before taking him shopping and expecting him to pay for expensive purchases… Let’s stipulate that this does not refer to paying the bill at a restaurant or going to museums, exhibitions together…
This does not apply to paying for a restaurant bill or taking him to museums and exhibits together. A foreigner will do what is expected of him: pay for the purchases. However, by receiving gifts, you may lose the possibility of a joint future with him. Do unto people as you would have them do unto you. Seeking advantage or taking advantage of the moment, you can lose out and be left with the results of a shopping tour, but without a reliable, loving man and a future in a European country.
If you do not like a foreigner, do not look in any situation, and force the suitor, who hopes for reciprocity, to make a shopping marathon. Winning in one way, you can lose another: your face.
Honesty and humanity – a quality that is valued above the beautiful appearance or wealth, but which, unfortunately, in our time is very rare to find in people. Is this due to the crisis, to the financial instability of many Eastern European countries? Or simply personal indifference to destiny and feelings of another person, to universal moral values?
Money in European countries is earned by work, it does not come to a person together with a passport of a citizen of a country belonging to the European Union.
Even if bitter, but the truth…
If a man is not liked at the first meeting, you should honestly tell him about it, and not play with his feelings and hopes! Unfortunately, it is easier for a Slavic woman to remain silent or simply disappear: stop answering a man’s calls and leave him all alone in a country that is foreign to him.
Personal negative life experiences are no excuse for treating other people this way. If a person has been treated unfairly, this does not give him the right to treat other people in the same way. It is because of the above-mentioned attitude towards foreigners that an unpleasant stereotype of self-serving women from Eastern Europe has formed and is confirmed time and again.
If you behave disrespectfully or irresponsibly with a foreign gentleman, you may deprive another sincere woman of an opportunity to meet her happiness. After all, a man will lose his trust not only in the person who acted dishonestly with him, but possibly in all Slavic women as well. It will be impossible to correct such situation, telling about sincerity, kindness and purity of Slavic soul…
In conclusion, we would like to say that it is impossible to prescribe norms of behavior to another person and make him follow them. In the end everyone decides for himself how to behave in this or that situation. However, the well-known proverb “you reap what you sow” is no less true.