The Question

Hello MeetKing,

I met up with this girl on Bumble about a week ago and it went great. From the beginning she really had my sense of humor and we had some great banter. Honestly, more than a hot girl, I want someone I can have a good conversation with, you know? But then I managed to ruin it – I got drunk, we texted late at night, and I ended up pushing her to send me some nudes, or at least some lightly dressed pictures. Guess what? She stopped responding to my texts and I just noticed that she didn’t agree with me on the app. I can safely say that I torpedoed the whole thing. Is there a classy or respectful way to ask for files or is she completely out of bounds?

– Nudes Dude

The answer

Dear ND,

There are so many things in life that you may want, but you can’t ask for them directly. For example, you can’t just have someone’s respect, you have to earn it. You can’t just have your paycheck, you have to work for it. Asking for naked pictures of a person is no different.

You need to send some smart signals to the object of your affection, like you wouldn’t mind if they sent a photo of their most private parts. Yes, it could go wrong, and yes, there is no magic password. If you did not know it yet, a Woman doesn’t send you a file just because you want to see her naked.

Nudes are made because the sender is turned on by spinning You up. You’ll be naked when they want to imagine you in the corner of a bar with slack jaws in front of your phone, staring at a picture of their ass in the air. They want you to visualize their images instead of this porn actress Who is your usual contact?

It is also worth noting that acts are not Charity – They are an exhibitionist form of masturbation . Let her know she’s sexy. Ask her to send you a selfie, tell her she looks amazing and that you can’t stop thinking about her. If she wears her more revealing outfits exclusively for you, definitely don’t let that go unmentioned. Basically, you want to reward her for driving you crazy.

Of course, getting an act is usually part of the natural progression when you are already sexting . If you have had sex with someone and you both Are not If you’re sexting each other, just don’t use modern technology. Sexting isn’t rocket science – if you’re doing it right, your partner is too horny to be particularly critical. Just don’t be also creative. No floral similes. Take your literary cues from Jay-Z, not James Joyce. You might drop a hint. For example, if she mentions being in a state of undress, I wish I could see that. But you probably don’t have to.

Persist in your efforts within reason and accept defeat if necessary. Do not just write noodz plz if you are not getting anywhere. Always remember to respect women’s boundaries and thank the giving girls for giving.

In short, make her feel powerful. Once you do, she may feel like exercising that power. Win-Win.

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