There is no greater experience than being in love. You’re excited to be with a person who makes you feel emotions you can’t put into words. Everything else in your life could be going wrong, but when you are with them, all those problems seem to disappear. You are there in the moment, living what feels like a different existence.

In every relationship, there comes a wall. Eventually the feeling of the honeymoon phase disappears and the real work in your relationship begins. You still have those feelings, but they don’t seem as strong. The passion is there, but it flickers a bit.

If you don’t check the box, you and/or your partner may lose interest in the relationship. It won’t be long before you wonder if the passion you once had even existed. Here are six warning signs your partner is losing interest – and what you can do to win them back.

1. Sex becomes a chore

Sex is one of the ways we can manifest our feelings in a physical way. Good sex makes for a happier life. You don’t necessarily have to have sex every day, but it should be regular. It should be a time when you both turn off the world and give in to the experience. If your partner is not treating your sex life the same way, warning bells should be ringing in your head. For great sex in a long-term relationship you could try spicing things up a bit. Flirt with them, experiment, but let them know you want to rock their world.

2. She fight with you regularly

Does it feel like you’re always doing something wrong? It might not be you – it could be your partner picking small fights because they are withdrawing. Relationship fights can be a sign that someone is trying to distance themselves. If this is the case, all you can do is try. Listen to what they are trying to say beyond yelling. Don’t be their punching bag and never accept physical abuse.

3. She stops actively pursuing you

Just because you’ve been with someone for a while doesn’t mean it’s time to break up. You should never stop pursuing your partner through things like date night and physical affection outside of the bedroom. If your partner doesn’t hug, kiss, and compliment you, take note. Kiss them – show them you want them. If they don’t respond after repeated attempts, you need to make a decision.

4. You talk about someone who is a little too much

It is natural for each of us to interact and connect with others. That relationship can grow into something more or stay within healthy boundaries. If your partner is talking a little too much about someone – you have a sense of what is too much – it is a sign that they are losing interest. If it bothers you, don’t keep it all inside. Say something to your partner. Don’t get into a shouting match – talk to adults.

5. She don’t involve you in her life and plans

If you are surprised by your partner’s plans, this can be a sign. Your partner will do things without you, but you should at least be aware of what is going on in their life. If they go out of their way not to include you, speak up. Don’t wait until you are not involved in everything they do.

6. You can feel the distance getting bigger

I think it’s safe to say that each of us has intuition. We can feel whether we are close to our partner or not. If you feel the distance and then it gets bigger, don’t stay calm. Fight for your relationship. Have a difficult conversation with your partner. Tell them you love them and want to be closer. Do the best you can and hope they meet you halfway.

The truth is that some relationships can’t be saved. I hate to say it, but it’s true. You are the only one who knows your partner, so you have to think long and hard. You have to be honest about the possibilities. If there is a chance to get back what you once had, take it.

Despite the statistics, your love and relationship can withstand the test of time and all the struggles. You feel for this person for a reason, sometimes it helps to go back in time and recapture those feelings. Relationships are hard work, but it is worth it to be with that special person who is doing this just for you. Look for the warning signs, get honest, and take the necessary next steps.