What follows is an overview of when you are a bitch and how you are a bitch to make sure you get your point across.

1. If he does not stop hitting you

We’ve all been there, ladies. You’re at a bar sipping your drink after a hard day at work. You’re at a party waiting for your friends or even your husband. And a guy walks up. You’ve obviously taken notice of him. He offers to buy you a drink. You might accept to be polite, or you might try to chase him away. But he just doesn’t take the hint. You might think you should be flattered or you shouldn’t be rude.

But you know what? You don’t owe him anything. You’re not interested. You’re busy or you just want to be left alone and you deserve your peace. So it’s time to get bitchy, because that’s the only thing that’s going to get through. Here’s how.

• Walk away. Stop listening to his conversation while waiting for a break. He takes this as interest and you are not interested. You can say ‘sorry’ but if you really want to know how to be a slut, just get up and walk away.
• Drop your drink on him. If you make it known that you are doing it on purpose, he will have no doubt that you are a bitch. But you can make him suspect it’s an accident if you’re not willing to be that bitchy. If he goes to the bathroom to clean up, get out!
• Laughing at him. It’s definitely not nice, but the way a man acts when he’s trying to impress a woman can certainly be disgusting. Let him know that you are not impressed. It won’t help his ego, but that’s not the reason to be a bitch in this situation. He will surely leave you alone!
• Turn him down. It’s kinder and more mature to say you’re not interested, as we recommend in this post, but sometimes all you can do is think and say, ‘Eww.’ And he will realize that he has no chance.

2. If he does not accept your separation

You have realized that he is not the one. You may care about him, but you need to break up for your life to move forward. So you break up with him. You might try to be gentle, but he doesn’t get the picture. Either he doesn’t take your breakup seriously or thinks you are ‘meant to be’ when you clearly saw something else.

It’s hard for many women to be a bitch during a breakup. After all, even the Bad Girls Bible guide to breaking up with a man says not to be harsh, but sometimes you have to be a bitch. Here’s what you do:

• Ignore him. Don’t answer your phone, don’t return messages, don’t talk to him on the street, and don’t give him any other attention. This should help him get the message faster and better overcome the breakup. Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind!
• Block him. Sometimes ignoring him isn’t enough. He’ll think you’re a bitch if you block him on your phone and social media, and he might even turn to his friends, but it’s your right to have privacy.
• Make a public statement about how it’s over. Be careful not to sound passive aggressive or immature. You simply want to make it known that while you were together, perhaps for a long time, you are no longer. You can do this at a party or on Facebook. Keep it short and sweet, especially if you have shared friends.
• Give his stuff back. Or if your heart is set on really being a bitch – don’t do it. Donate them. Sell them (for less than what they’re worth!). Trash them or even burn them. Nothing says ‘it’s over’ like doing something that indicates you can’t stand to look at his possessions.

3. If he treats you badly

We generally don’t recommend being a bitch just because your relationship is rocky. It’s better to get advice Fix your problems, take a break to determine if it’s worth saving the relationship or just break up once you realize it’s time. Read more here. But if you’re dealing with someone who isn’t treating you well, whether it’s your husband, a friend, a family member, or a co-worker, you may have to be a bitch.

These tactics differ because you may still have to show up for the next family dinner or work tomorrow morning, so you don’t want to be a bitch so badly that you can’t come back. You should also realize that people may accuse you of being a slut just because you stand up for yourself. We live in a misogynistic society that often puts down confident women, but you have the right to be treated like a human being.

When you think about how you can be a bitch in these situations, start carefully. For example, you can treat someone the way they treat you. You can simply point out that they are being unfair or unkind. The key is to be rational and not emotional so people take you seriously. You can also specifically ask how that person would behave if you behaved toward them the way they do toward you, or how they would feel if someone behaved that way toward their daughter or wife if their treatment of you is particularly sexist.

4. If you want your way

We can’t always be lucky and get what we want. Sometimes you have to fight for what you want because if you don’t speak up for yourself, no one will. This might mean that you have to learn how to be a bitch in order to get what you want in terms of your relationship. Again, this may not mean being bitchy, but your behavior may be perceived as bitchy because society teaches women to be more submissive (and not in the sexual way !).

Here are a few things that might make others think you are a bitch:

• Tell people what you expect. Being clear about what you want will help you get it. So if you want your husband to come with you to a family dinner and wear a tie, let him know! Of course, others may find this rude or they may rebel against being told what to do, but the right people will understand how you actually make it easier!
• Let him know what you want in a relationship. Are you looking for NSA sex ? A casual relationship ? Something long term ? Marriage ? Tell him. This makes it easy to weed out people who are not a good match.
• Be clear about your sexual needs . Again, this isn’t really bitchy, but many men don’t realize that traditional PIV sex is often not as good for women as it is for men. For starters, you need foreplay and clitoral stimulation. And if you want to try something new in bed, talk about it .

A warning to be a bitch

‘Bitch’ is one of the most common insults towards women, even if they’re not actually that bitchy. Being a bitch can quickly tarnish your reputation. Don’t be a bitch if you can’t handle it. On the other hand, you’re the only one who knows how hard and how long you’ve tried not to be bitchy.

And when you become more assertive, it can upset people, especially men who are immature and entitled. If you refuse their advances and attention or break up with them, they may respond with threats, attacks, stalking, or worse. In these situations, make sure you are around other people. Ask a friend to accompany you if you know you need to be a bitch, or avoid doing so in person.

When you’ve tried everything else, sometimes all that’s left is a bitch. It can certainly be effective, but some people just can’t pull it off well.