There’s nothing wrong with dating a younger man. In fact, it’s becoming increasingly popular to be a cougar, which is defined as a man who is at least eight years younger than you.
Although the term cougar was initially thought to be negative, it is no longer. After all, cougars are usually women who are attractive and sexy. And cougars are usually financially independent. A woman who is dating a younger man usually doesn’t have to look for a man to be the provider. This opens up a whole new pool of men for her to think about.
There are many good reasons to date a younger man, and this can be a lot of fun and totally worth it. But sometimes it can be a drag. So you should know what are the advantages and disadvantages of meeting younger men.
1. Younger body
If you are looking for eye candy, dating a younger man is a better fit than dating an older man in most cases. People tend to gain a few pounds as they get older. Men usually gain weight between the ages of 30 and 55, and many develop belly fat. Many younger men do not have this problem. As men age, muscle mass also decreases. And many men lose their hair in their mid-30s. Younger men are definitely hotter overall.
2. Higher sex drive
If you have a high sex drive If you have been dissatisfied with men your age who don’t (or can’t) have as much sex as you would like, you will be more satisfied with a younger man with whom you are sexually compatible.
It’s simple biology: men’s testosterone levels decrease as they age. Testosterone levels peak when men are in their late teens, and they begin to decline slowly after that. But the decline isn’t noticeable in how much sex he wants, how long it takes him to get an erection, how hard the erection is, and how long it takes him to get a second erection until he’s about 30 to 40 years old this time-his testosterone levels drop by about 1 percent per year.
Learn more about his erections in this post.
3. More spontaneous and fun
If you just want to have fun, a younger man might be the ticket. Many women who have just gotten out of a long-term relationship may want to stay current, but aren’t ready to get back into a serious relationship right away. They just want to have fun.
Younger men are also not usually looking for a serious commitment when dating an older woman. What they offer is spontaneity, variety and fun. And if you are with a younger man who does fun and spontaneous things, this will bring out your younger side. You might feel younger and more energetic just by being with a younger man. Of course, men and women of all ages can have commitment issues. Read more here.
4. You can shape it
Since you are the older one, you are probably more worldly and experienced. You can teach your young man some things, especially in the bedroom. Your younger man is probably anxious to please you. He will welcome any sexual instruction you might give him. And he will probably be willing to try anything. After all, you’re the adult, so he probably respects you.
5. Less baggage
Younger men are typically not divorced and are unlikely to have children. Older men, on the other hand, are more likely to be divorced and/or have children. This means they can bring some baggage to the relationship that a younger man would not. Younger men are not jaded and still see women as full of prospects and adventure. Older men may see negative relationships because of past failures.
Many men who date younger women do so for fun, but they usually don’t want to settle down. If you don’t want to settle down either, this may be fine for you. But know that younger men are usually more immature and less likely to commit.
Younger men may want to have children and a family someday, and as an older woman, you may not be interested. You may already have children or even adult children. The relationship with the younger man will probably end eventually if this is the case. You need compatible life goals to work for a relationship. If you are someone who feels down and lonely when you break up with someone, you may want to stay away from men who are much younger than you.
If he’s particularly immature, he’ll probably expect you to make all the decisions, including dinner reservations and planning dates. If you’re not careful, the relationship could resemble a mother-son relationship. Do you want to be the one to tell him he’s been drinking too much all along?
And remember, if the relationship gets serious enough that you meet his parents, you need to be prepared. And you probably won’t be comfortable with (or even like) his friends. But because he’s younger, he’ll probably want to hang out with his friends more than you want to. A younger man often gets his identity from his friends; he might not see himself as part of a couple.
2. Less demanding
Typically, the older you get, the wiser you become. You may enjoy connecting with people with whom you can discuss current events or philosophical issues. But a younger man might not be there yet. Of course, this is just a generalization, and there are always outliers, but if you bring your young date to a group of your peers, he might say something that could embarrass you.
3. Possibly less in common
If you are a generation (or even 10 years) removed from the man you are dating, it may be difficult to relate to each other. You probably can’t refer to the same television shows you watched as a child. You may use different expressions, and he may not understand some basic cultural references you often refer to with people your age. When this happens, it’s a little awkward. Explaining the reference and then saying, “You had to be there,” gets old.
However, you can start with just a few shared interests and teach each other about your hobbies if you take this relationship seriously.
4. He feels emasculated
If you are at the peak of your career and he is just starting out in his career, or if he doesn’t have a career yet, he may feel uncomfortable and feel like less of a man. Men often feel like they can protect and provide for women. If you are already self-sufficient and ahead of him professionally, this can lead to awkwardness in the relationship. These feelings may be holdovers from chivalry and social norms that are expiring. He may be an insecure man, too.
Or if he doesn’t mind, you could soon become his sugar mama.
5. Society does not accept it completely
Women are often raised to be older men, or at least men their own age. So this role reversal is not generally accepted by society.
This is not necessarily negative, but it can be a hurdle. Many people believe that dating a younger man is a sign of desperation or just not appropriate, even if there is only a few years difference! They may make snide comments or feel sorry for you. Again, this does not mean you should be desperate or feel sorry for you. It is just a reality that you should prepare for.
It is helpful if you realize that society does not accept many things for silly and outdated reasons. Compersion is one of those things!
6. Your biological clock is ticking
If you haven’t had children yet and want to, dating a younger man may not be the best choice. You might feel the biological clock ticking, but he might feel there is enough time to have children. He might not even be close to being ready to start a family. If you commit to a man like this when your goal is to have children, you may be missing your opportunity.
There are pros and cons to dating a younger man. But think about it, there are pros and cons to dating just about anyone. If you want to date a younger man, give it a try. If the pros outweigh the cons, you have a good thing going.